WEDDING ANNIVERSARY: 5 Facts About Marriage You Should Know From My Experience Thus Far

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 Our first wedding ceremony in what usually makes up a series of ceremonies for most African marriages, was held at the Federal Marriage Registry in Ikoyi, Lagos, Nigeria, on the 12th of October, 2016 and as you have most likely worked out, it's our 5th anniversary today. Only 5 years? Many of my seniors in the business would say. Yes 5 years and if you ever wondered like myself in the past, how couples managed to stay together for even a few years, then you will realise that for some of us 5 years is a milestone. Let's not talk of the many young marriages that do not see the light of day, despite elaborate wedding ceremonies. In addition to a few pictures of myself and my family, find below 5 golden facts you must know from my marriage experience thus far. If you are yet to take the plunge and still dreaming of meeting Snow white in all her glory, this article might help you. I will also be waiting to hear the opinion of my seniors in this business and others in the comments section.

Engagement Date: July 2016


#1. If your marriage is based on erotic and material attraction alone, I'm sorry to burst your bubble because sooner than later, you MAY be booking appointments with a Divorce Lawyer. I feel that this fact is the most important. That physical beauty can depreciate with age or that things may not always be smooth financially is no news. What next for you, if things do not pan out as you fantasised from the get go? After 2 children, Eri has had her struggles with maintaining the size she was when I met her and so have I. I used to be Medical College 'MR MACHO' at some point and when Eri met me, my 6 packs were still in good shape but an amalgamation of my packs occurred and I am finding it very difficult to break up the 1 pack that dangles beneath my anterior abdominal wall now and what's she going to do about it?  We have also had our moments of financial needs to cater to aspirations and desires but we have managed to keep our heads up through it all thus far and the hustle continues.

Somerset, England/UK: October 2021


#2. If you are the type of person that wants to take every issue to tribunal and never ignores somethings, I am sorry because your marriage may end after battle upon battle. "Why should you talk to me like that, are you mental?" "Why would you dare to forget this special date in my life, you don't love me any more and you must tell me why or you won't leave this house"! Uncle/Aunty, it is a giving that, your spouse will unknowingly talk to you in a way that you don't like at some point. Somebody will forget somebodies parents wedding anniversary or some other special date. If you choose to turn your house into a battle front for these, it's up to you. I'm usually the guilty one with dates and a jokingly verbalised reminder suits me well. Eri blesses me with a piercing frown when I unknowingly talk to her in a way she is unhappy with and I think I do same. This is not to say we have not had our moments but you just can't take everything to the tribunal, otherwise the place will implode. 

Westminster, London,UK: September 2021


#3. If you are the type that needs attention from your partner/spouse 24 hours of 7 days of every week, I wish you the best of luck if you are not able to find a balance with this because you may end up dejected and feeling that your spouse no longer loves you at some point. The reality is that, one thing or the other will temporarily take priority over giving you attention at some point, especially children when they enter the equation. 

Somerset, England/UK: October 2021
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Somerset, England/UK: October 2021


#4. One person cannot always be right! I used to always feel I was right about every thing, so if you are in this boat you were not alone but you can understand the frustration this must have been causing Madam Eri, can't you? Even if you are right 99.9% of the time, there's still going to be that 0.1% when you are likely to be wrong and what if something critical could have been avoided? I got to learn that, it's always good marital practice to listen to your partner's opinion and act accordingly sometimes, without slamming the VETO hammer for  every decision making exercise that pops up!



#5. Finally, it's "FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING"! The first ever author of this popular quote is not at all far from the truth. If you are the type that pleases everyone else except your wife and kids, then sorry is all I can say. Some people might say,"is there really anyone like this?" Some stories will leave your jaw dropped for days unending and it will always remain difficult to understand what drives that thought process. I'll cross the mountains and oceans for my immediate family especially and extended family as much as possible.



A very big thank you to every one who spent some form of energy to wish us all. I say a big Amen to all the prayers and wish you all the same. Please don't forget to drop your thoughts in the comments section below. I'm keen to read about your opinions on the issues raised and many more. Cheers.





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  1. Note: I have not said anything about physical/verbal abuse because it’s not our thing. That is a story for another post and I assume this post is meant for people who mean to have a reasonable relationship. Thanks

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  2. Congrats on your 5th anniversary. Enjoy bliss.

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  3. Wow
    This is profound
    Basic marriage principles that can take you through the next 5 years and the next.
    Interesting read too
    Thanks Dr Kay

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  4. Happy Anniversary to you n yours❤️❤️

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  5. Happy Anniversary to you both.
    I totally agree with your stand doc.
    Marriage is a give and take union.
    Always stay strong and enjoy a blissful marriage. God bless your home

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    1. Hi, This is Barbara. Once again Happy Anniversary and do keep the bliss burning

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  6. Happy anniversary. Enjoy your years together.

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  7. Lovely photos. Happy Anniversary

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  8. I totally agree. Points well captured. Wishing you guys many more blissful and blessed years

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  9. Right on point Baba k. Happy wedding anniversary once again to both of you. More bliss in your home.

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  10. Dr. K, it takes a matured mind to know these basic truths about marriage and relationship. These facts and others not mentioned, if followed keenly, makes marriage more romantic and unified.
    More Grace bro.
    Congrats

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  11. Congratulations broda on ur anniversary. This is really a great write up. I would advice u take up a role of a marriage counselor .Lol

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  12. Happy Wedding Anniversary Dr K.
    The article is explicitly written and points are nothing but the truth.
    I wish you and your wife a long beautiful life together.

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  13. Happy wedding anniversary Kevwe. I wish you and your family more years of bliss.

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  14. Congratulations on this great mile stone. For me, marriage is a union of two consenting adults, not 3, not 4, which means do not allow other people interfere in your marriage matters. Settle your dispute in your bedroom, do not allow the sun settle without the issues being resolved. Lastly,let love and peace reign always.

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  15. Awesome piece...well scripted and articulate!
    Happy Wedding Anniversary and many more blessings in the years ahead

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  16. Keep it up...Great job. Stanley Kalu

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  17. Nice points. Marriage is not easy but it has it’s perks.

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  18. Very true. Marriage is not a walk in the park like most of us thought. It requires a lot of dedication to make it work. Happy anniversary Kevwe and wifey. Wishing you guys many more blessed years together.
    Layo

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  19. Very true. Happy Wedding anniversary

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  20. Congratulations on your 5th wedding anniversary

    A nice read. It was well thought out.

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  21. Wow, nice piece. Congratulations dear

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  22. All Points are Valid. Experience they say is the best teacher��
    Congratulations @Kevwe and your beautiful family ��.
    Wishing you many more years of Marital bliss ✨
    DrOvia.

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  23. Nice piece Dr.K indeed it's family over everything. When the chips are down,your family will never let you down. Kudos and happy anniversary to you and wifey. Dr.Diane

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  24. Very true Kevwe. It's also good to remember the good times you have had together in those moments you feel the love is fading away. Great points.
    Happy 5th wedding anniversary to you guys. Wishing you guys more sweet years together

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  25. Nice write up, sure a lot of couples will benefit. Congratulations again. Ekele Amadi Robert

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  26. Right on point Baba k. Well said. Happy wedding anniversary once again to both of you. More bliss in your home.
    Angie

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  27. Major stuff. Thanks for sharing and thanks Eri for your expert management. Many more fruitful years together. Happy anniversary. Steve

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  28. Nice one doc, lesson learnt, happy anniversary, more of God's blessings in your family cheers
    Dr Paul Doni Doni

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  29. Nice piece
    I laughed at many things though
    Even a day is a milestone to achieve in marriage
    Family is everything
    Wishing you many more years of bliss

    Amede

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  30. HWA chief Kevwe, ur union shall 4eva remain blessed, thank you for sharing, God bless you always, udee

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